Daily AncestorWeeping willow
A weeping willow on a gravestone stands for grief and mourning; it was a favorite carving on American stones from about 1800 through the Victorian era.
The drooping branches look like sorrow. Around 1800 carvers paired the willow with an urn, and Victorians also set it beside a lamb or a weeping woman and planted real willows in cemeteries.
Some writers add that a cut willow sprouts again, so it can hint at rebirth, and one guide reads it as earthly sorrow and heavenly joy, but the plain reading is grief. The willow is no longer used on new stones, so it is a good sign of an older stone.
- Messages in Stone: Symbolism on Victorian Grave Markers, by Loren N. Horton (The Palimpsest, State Historical Society of Iowa, 1989)
- Symbolism in Greenwood Cemetery, by Gerald McGrane (University of Northern Iowa)
- Early American Gravestones: Introduction to the Farber Gravestone Collection, by Jessie Lie Farber (American Antiquarian Society)
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